Family and Friends—Baby Loss

Resources - Friends and Family Baby LossIf you have found this page it likely means that someone close to you has experienced the loss of their baby. You want to help, but you’re afraid of doing something wrong or overstepping your bounds.  We hope that the resources on this page will help guide you through supporting this person.  

Understanding Loss

Understanding Miscarriage and Infant Loss

What the Bereaved parent is Feeling: for friends and family

The Bereaved Parent’s Wishlist

Free Amazon Kindle book, When your Friend’s Baby dies.

Someone You May Know handout

Friends & Family Advice

What to Say

For Those Who Lost a Baby – A letter written by a babyloss mom about words she would have liked to hear those first few days after the loss of her daughter.

The Complete List of Do’s and Don’ts When Supporting the Bereaved

10 Ways to Support the Person in Your Life Who Just Lost a Baby

What to Say and Not to Say

But You Can Have Another Baby:  What to say and what NOT to say to grieving parents  What Do You Say To Someone Who Has Lost A Child?

Offering Condolence

Samples for expressing words of sympathy Use these condolence messages to help you write your condolences in cards or letters of sympathy.)

What to Say in Your Condolence Messages

10 Things You Should Never Say to a Miscarriage Survivor

36 Things to Do For Those In Grief

How to Help

How Friends and Family Can Help

Take Them a Meal: Create a customized online sign up sheet to include phone numbers, driving directions, food allergies and more that makes it easy for friends and family to take meals to those in need.

Words from Bereaved Parents on How to Help

Video on How to Help the Bereaved

What to Say and How to Help

10 Ways to Support the Person in Your Life Who Just Lost a Baby
Helping a Grieving Friend in the Workplace

Angel Babies How to Help click the Family & Friends tab

Gifts for Bereaved parents

Tender Tears – comfort boxes with specially selected items that show compassion, support and love for those who are grieving.  A percentage of each sale for the BabyLoss Comfort Boxes goes to Mikayla’s Grace.

Gift ideas

A Loss Remembered – bereavement cards acknowledging the anniversary of a child’s death

Lost for Words Card Line –   unique card line founded by artists and photographers Carly Marie Dudley and Franchesca Cox that specializes in cards for pregnancy loss, infant loss and infertility.

Pregnancy Loss Cards

Support Resources for Grandparents

NOTE: There is a local group of Bereaved Grandparents that meets in Madison, Wisconsin to support each other.  If you are interested in getting together with them please contact Maureen Berghoefer or Mary Sweeney at

Grieving Grandparents

Grandchild Loss

Support Resources for Siblings

101 Rainbow Ribbons: A book to help children understand basic concepts of dying and death, written by Linda Colletti (a local grief counselor and bereaved mother).


Explaining Death to Children (Book: We Were Gonna Have a Baby, We Had An Angel Instead) (Book: Something Happened) (Book: Someone Came Before You)

Books for children

Helping Children Cope with Grief

Helping Teenagers Cope with Grief

Helping Infants and Toddlers When Someone They Love Dies

Helping Children with Funerals

Helping Children Understand Cremation

Helping Grieving Children at School

Helping Bereaved Siblings Heal